Sam Smith has joyfully explained how much freer they feel since coming out as non-binary, encouraging others not to stifle their own self-expression and fluidity – and reap the ‘limitless’ rewards.
In September last year, the Stay With Me superstar publicly came out as non-binary and said they were now using they/them pronouns.
Speaking with Fearne Cotton on her Happy Place podcast this week, 28-year-old Sam said they feel so much more pleasure from unapologetically living their life now.
They explained on discovering more about themselves: ‘I have to say, being non-binary my whole life, I feel so much pleasure, sexually, personally, all these things. I move and express myself in ways that are just wonderful and I do see people restrict themseles sometimes into this corner because that’s what they’re been told to do and that’s what they think is correct.
‘If you want to wear some heels and a skirt and you want to dance…if you want to express yourself in a certain way, why would you deny yourself that pleasure, because it’s “gay” or because “that’s too queer”.
‘It’s about trying to be limitless I think, and to be limitless you have to dare greatly, right? And be ready for it to go wrong sometimes, or feel weird. I can’t express enough to people the freedom you feel from just enjoying your body, and enjoying your mind and enjoying your life.’
Be that as it may, during the podcast Sam also shared the difficuties in expressing their queerness in the music industry, explaining that while they still have their own back, it can be hard.
They said: ‘Most of the time on a daily basis I feel like I’ve got my own back. When I step out the door I’ve got my own back. I feel able to express my queerness, which is all I wanted.
‘For me, in terms of being myself fully in my career, that was all about my queerness. But I do come up against it and that’s hard…I’m in a position that not many people have been in, in terms of pop music singing.
‘If you look at queer artists in the world, who have been globally successful and who have been out and queer, that’s not a very long list. In a work place, it’s a new topic and there’s new struggles that I come up against and I will contiue to come up against.’
During the candid conversation, Sam – who recently opened up on hopes to have children – added that while being in the public eye added another layer of difficulty to coming out, they were prepared to step up and take on the responsibility if having the conversation around being gender fluidity can help others.
They said: ‘What’s not normal is how many people are watching and sharing opinions and responsibilities I have to take on at my age, which is quite intense.
‘The only stuff I’ve found hard is the fame side of things, I have to admit. It’s just a huge responsibility.’
Sam went on: ‘The thought of me speaking about it could make other people feel less alone is a lovely feeling, then that’s a responsibility in itself, but I’m willing to step up to it.
‘My only thing that I just want to make sure is that I just want people to be respectful of the fact I’m a singer and a musician as well and that’s what I do and that’s what I came into this world doing.
‘I always want there to be balance in terms of that focus, but that’s my mission. I’ve got to be able to balance the both of them and make sure they exist together and not one takes up the other.’
Listen to Sam’s full interview with Fearne on her Happy Place podcast.
Credit: Original article published here.