Sam Smith has said they want to be a ‘mummy’ to their future children as they opened up about how things became ‘complicated’ when changing their pronouns.
The music star came out as non-binary last year, asking fans to refer to them using the pronouns they/them rather than he/him, as a person who identifies as non-binary does not define themselves exclusively as male or female.
Smith, 28, told Zane Lowe on Apple Music 1 that they are keen to have kids by the age of 35.
‘I want all of it. I want to have kids. I want to be with the kids and I want to watch them grow and be with them every day,’ they revealed.
‘I want to be mummy. I’m definitely going to do that some point, but I’ve still got more in me.
‘I’ve still got ambition. I try and settle it down all the time and play it down, but I’m ambitious and I would still want to sing to people and do this job. It’s an amazing feeling.
‘It’s an amazing job to have. Thirty-five is the latest I’m going to have a kid. That’s what I’ve decided.’
Touching on the difficulties that arose last year when coming out as non-binary, the star explained: ‘I think when I first announced my pronouns – I mean look, I’ve always been non-binary. I’ve always felt the way I felt.
‘When I changed my pronouns, things got complicated for sure. I felt a need to be presenting all the time. It took time. It took real time.
‘My closest around me, my family, my sisters and stuff, they all got it like that and it wasn’t a problem. What I’ve learned this year is people don’t like to be wrong, and when people mess up a pronoun or something, they really don’t like it.’
Smith, who recently admitted they felt pressured to hide their non-binary identity from fans, added that the struggles that some people have over their pronouns ‘kind of ruins conversations’ and ‘moments’.
‘It’s really difficult. So I’ve had to just go into myself and try and deal with it in a real kind way and patience, and just know that everyone’s working on this,’ the How Do You Sleep hit-maker explained.
‘It’s going to take time. We’re changing a language here. So I’m trying to be patient with it but I have to say right now in my life: I feel – it sounds cliché to say it but I feel so free.’
Smith continued: ‘I feel so unafraid of failure, unafraid of my imperfections. And I just feel I don’t feel a lot of fear at the moment, because I just feel like I could do everything wrong and it would still be okay because I’ve got my own back.
‘I really have my own back, and that’s a lovely feeling to feel.’
Smith, whose new album Love Goes is released Friday October 30, said they will ‘hopefully find a boyfriend’, but added they’ve had a bit of trouble on the romance front.
‘They’re absolutely nowhere to be found anywhere in London. I’ve been searching all over the place!
‘Honestly, I’ve been on the front line now for a good three years and it’s exhausting.’
The full Zane Lowe on Apple Music 1 interview with Sam Smith is available to listen to in full at apple.co/lovegoes-interview.