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The One Thing Missing From Your Sex Life? Bondage

For some, the fantasy started with the image of a silk grey tie. Although the prose in Fifty Shades of Grey left much to be desired (and little to the imagination), it normalised the idea of having sex while tied up. Of course, others were into bondage long before E. L. James. But the novel certainly played a big role in bringing the B in BDSM into the mainstream.

The kink can be a lot of fun — but communication is critical, Myisha Battle, certified sex and dating coach, tells us. She says that bondage play should involve “quite a bit of planning and talking through what’s okay and what’s not within the scene that is played out.”

In addition to talking through the details with your partner or partners, Battle also suggests asking yourself: What type of experience do I want to create? “The answer to this question will guide you toward the type of equipment you’ll need, and provide you with words to communicate what you want to your partner,” she says. “For instance, do you want it to be playful, rough, or sensual? Do you want to be fully or partially restrained? Which body parts do you want to include?” Other factors to consider: Do you want to be tied up, or do you want to be the one tying? What types of bondage materials do you want to use?

Whether you’re the dominant or the submissive, we’re here to show you the ropes (sorry, couldn’t help it). These Battle-approved positions and tips tell you everything you need to know to get started, so you won’t get tied up in logistics in the bedroom.

Handcuff behind the back

Gear: One pair of handcuffs

How to: Handcuff your partner’s hands behind their back (or above their head if it’s more comfortable). Just don’t lose the key.

Tied to the bed — hands only

Gear: Comfortable restraints that fit under your mattress or around a bedpost.

How to: Have your partner lie on their back, and tether their hands to the bed. Let them watch as you go down on them, grind up against them, or maybe even incorporate a toy.

Tied to the bed — hands and feet

Gear: Comfortable restraints that fit under your mattress or around a bedpost.

How to: Have your partner spread eagle on the bed, and tie their extremities to its four corners. They can lie on their back or on their stomach. A tip: The latter makes it easier to work in butt play.

Heels over head — on back

Gear: Restraints or scarves

How to: Have your partner lie on their back and put their arms and legs up in the air, then tie their ankles to their wrists. (To help you picture it: If they were working out, it would look like they were at the top of a straight-legged jack knife ab move.) You can also just tie their legs to the headboard.

From there, tease them, experiment with oral, and maybe even spank them.

Head over heels — bent over

Gear: Scarves, ties, or restraints

How to: From the standing position, have your partner bend over, then tie their wrists to their ankles. Then have your way with them. Talk about a head rush.

Leapfrog

Gear: Restraints, scarves, or other ties. A spreader bar.

How to: Have your partner start on their hands and knees like you’re about to do it doggy style. Next, bind their hands to their ankles. They can either have their hands between their legs or on the outside, depending on what’s most comfortable for them. Alternatively, you can use a spreader bar, which is a BDSM tool that allows you to spread the ankles apart while cuffing in the wrists. Once your boo is securely in the position, come at them from behind with your fingers or a vibrator. You can also grind into them.

 


Credit: Original article published here.

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