The founder of The Coaching Masters, a multimillion-dollar life coaching academy, has revealed how he turned his life around after a traumatic childhood, haunting experiences, and clinical diagnoses of antisocial personality disorder, emotionally unstable personality disorder, and bipolar II disorder.
Lewis Raymond Taylor, in other terms, is a psychopath.
Lewis built a coaching academy and worldwide community from the ashes of abuse, neglect, drug and alcohol addiction, violence, and several jail terms.
In a new Netflix documentary, the 33-year-old entrepreneur tells how he built his company and flipped his life upside down.
So much so that, despite his professional diagnosis, he has managed to turn those qualities into advantages while admitting that he is a psychopath who has impacted the lives of many others as a result of his own experiences.
Lewis described his ‘total turnaround’ by describing how he suffered from trauma from an early age, including being ‘cast down’ by his father, as well as incidences of sexual, physical, verbal, and emotional abuse.
Lewis was left reinforcing the identity that he was ‘bad’ with his mental health diagnosis and being called a ‘psychopath,’ which led him into a spiral of drink, drugs, criminality, suicide attempts, and reckless activity.
Lewis’ ‘chaotic lifestyle’ resulted in many prison sentences and putting other people’s lives in risk, but after nearly murdering a guy and leaving him in a coma for three days with severe injuries including brain haemorrhages, Lewis decided he had to make a change.
‘I did think I’d probably killed him, at that point, I thought my life would never be the same again, so that was probably my lowest point,’ Lewis admitted.
He told us: ‘It got to a point where I realised that I couldn’t keep blaming everything and everyone around me for why my life is so difficult, and took a good look at myself for the first time and realised it was time to make changes.’
Explaining his ‘very obsessive and very compulsive’ behaviour traits, Lewis spoke about his addictions to sex, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, gambling, and more. Now though, he’s addicted to ‘personal development’.
‘I’ve managed to change not just myself, but the trajectory of my life and a lot of other people’s that I’ve come into contact with. It’s very difficult to encapsulate that but I went through rehabilitation, started off on benefits, went back to college and even went to university and dropped out at the end and started our business. The next thing you know, it’s a business worth $25,000,000.’
During what Lewis now knows is his ‘other life,’ from which he has become alienated, there was one specific time when he understood things couldn’t continue the way.
‘I knew that I pushed it to the point of almost no return, but still didn’t have any kind of epiphany that there was an alternative, [I would have been in] a dark place knowing that there’s definitely no way out now,’ he recalled, after his third and final prison sentence.
‘The turning point for me – actually something I don’t mention in the documentary because I didn’t know at the time – but the day I was sentenced my friend took a picture of me, and there was a picture of me seven years before, outside the exact same courtroom and I looked exactly the same but I was seven years older.
‘He captioned it on social media “Nothing changes” and I remember thinking, first of all, I was like “How dare you”, but then I thought this is actually right and nothing has changed. And I realised that yeah, if I want my life to change, you need to change yourself. And that was the first epiphany moment.’
Lewis began making’small adjustments’ while serving a jail sentence for GBH, such as keeping to a schedule and going to the gym, to reading, cleaning up his cell, and even enrolling in a math and English course.
‘For the first time in my life I allowed myself to learn, because I’d never tried to that point, for fear of finding out that I was going to be this buffoon that I always thought [I was], that’s what my dad used to say to me.’
His education continued, and Lewis even learnt pi up to 500 decimal spaces, taking him 15 minutes to chant. ‘I thought, Oh my god, if I can do that then surely I can do other things.’
With some guidance and a little belief in himself, Lewis went further and to rehab for six months where he was ‘broken down’ and ‘built back up’, as well as drug and alcohol meetings, sometimes five in one day.
‘And I was doing it for myself [but] what I didn’t realise is I was absorbing everyone’s breakthroughs and denials and relapses and triggers and traumas and stories and beliefs and everything – and I realised that I had a lot to offer other people, because when you have an issue with addiction, or you’ve been in prison, you have to turn your life around otherwise you’re going to die or be put [back] in prison or whatever it might be.’
Lewis picked up ‘skills’ along the way that he now shares with others, whether from a heroin addict at an alcohol group or from a’miserable’ individual he reached out to on Facebook and offered to take them for coffee and aid.
‘And then a couple of clients later, I was a life coach,’ Lewis said, revealing how shocked he was to discover that he could actually make millions in this way, and actually use his ‘psychopathic traits’ to his advantage.
‘I do identify with a lot of those traits,’ he began, listing how he’s logical, ruthless, assertive, not emotional, and doesn’t really have a good perception of fear.
He continued: ‘I guess it’s what perspective you see it from and what end you’re on. But in terms of psychopathy, that’s more of a label that they put on antisocial personality disorders for people who do display the more negative, narcissistic manipulative, pathological, lying [traits].
‘Do I do those things? I don’t like to think I lie. Can I be manipulative? Probably at times but again, what’s the difference between manipulation and persuasion? This is just the language in which a specific word can have an association in someone’s brain that makes it feel heavy or negative.’
While resonating with those traits, Lewis has ‘no problem’ being branded a psychopath, ‘as long as people have an educated understanding of what that is’, he said, detailing how there’s a spectrum between empaths with ‘too much emotion to the point where it clouds their decisions’ and psychopaths ‘who have no regard for other people’s emotions whatsoever and only focus on themselves.’
‘I’d say I’m probably 75% along that list, and if people just understand that it’s just either a genetic or trauma response or some sort of makeup of my being and that’s all I am, because then they should be able to accept that,’ he said, calling it a form of neurodiversity, despite the ‘serial killer connotation’.
‘It’s difficult for me to ever say, was I born a psychopath, was a psychopath because I’ve been traumatised and shut off my emotion, was I psychopath because I wasn’t emotionally nurtured by my parents and I never learnt what emotions were,’ Lewis questioned.
He went on: ‘Did I cure my psychopathy? Did I channel to into another area… or am I still a cunning, manipulative, narcistic psychopath now and am I just doing a better job of covering it up? All I know is me, I can’t compare myself to anyone else because it’s all voiced in my own brain, so it’s difficult to compare.’
While Lewis has altered his life and is now helping so many people through his coaching company, he has also been accused of forming a cult, which he disputes but would not object to.
He shared: ‘It’s about a level of education and understanding what a cult is. We talk about creating a cult-ure, and there are elements of a cult-like environment, it’s a community of people, who believe in the same thing, which is helping people making the world a better place, creating freedom in our lives, there is a leader.
‘We have some people with our logo tattooed on them, so it can be seen as a cult and I have no problem with people seeing it as a cult because I know what it means to me.’
He added that ‘it’s not actually a cult’ and contains no religious elements or financial donations, but is just a ‘supportive environment where we’re all looking out for each other like a football club is’.
‘So no, it’s not a cult, but I’m not bothered if people think it is either.’
The Psychopath Life Coach is available to watch on Netflix.