Kate Ferdinand opened out on Mother’s Day as part of a blended family.
The reality actress, 31, and her footballer husband, Rio Ferdinand, 44, revealed their second child together earlier this year.
This means that the couple’s family is growing even more, since they also have a two-year-old boy called Cree, who was born in December 2020.
Kate is also the stepmother to Rio’s three children, Tate, 13, Lorenz, 15, and Tia, 11, whom he shares with his late wife, Rebecca Ellison, who died in 2015.
As Mother’s Day comes this Sunday, the couple has opened up about their previous emotions, with Kate saying she’sobbed’ when Rio and his kids forgot to get her a card her first year with them.
The pregnant star said on her Blended podcast: ‘I wasn’t a biological mum. I think it was our first Mother’s Day, maybe I’d been living here (their home in Bromley, South London) about six months, something like that.
‘And although I wasn’t a biological mum, I kind of felt like I’d taken on the mum role. For me, going from living at home on my own to taking the kids to school, cooking them dinner, I felt like a mum.’
‘I really thought I might get a card from you, and I didn’t get a card from you,’ she said directly to Rio.
She continued: ‘I felt bad to express that in front of you because you guys had lost your mum, and the kids have lost their mum. So I just went in my room and I just sobbed my heart out, seriously.
‘And then I felt selfish for wanting a card – how dare I want a card? So anyone that’s kind of new in this situation might feel like that because it’s a weird one.’
Kate, on the other hand, pushed Rio to be honest with the kids about his feelings.
‘In this kind of situation, you have to talk,’ she began. ‘Because if we just assume, right, the kids wanna go to the cemetery every single Mother’s Day, we could be damaging them because, actually, they might not wanna go one year and that’s fine.’
‘There’s no judgement,’ Rio assured, as Kate said the kids shouldn’t ‘worry about what everyone else thinks’ because ‘you’ve gotta do what’s right for you’.
She went on to describe a discussion she had with Rio during Christmas in which he stated that he didn’t want to visit his own mother’s grave because it was ‘too emotional,’ despite the fact that the pair visited every Christmas Night.
‘I just said to you, please tell the children,’ she went on.
‘Because if they feel like that, they won’t feel bad, and they will then understand how you feel. You have to do what’s right for you as well and if they wanna go to your mum’s, I’ll take them and if they don’t, they don’t, but you’ve gotta lead by example.’
‘Yeah, it’s true. It’s important,’ Rio agreed.