An incel featured in a documentary was filmed nervously having his first conversation in years with a woman, prompting him to change his mindset on his long-held beliefs.
New All 4 documentary UNTOLD – The Secret World of Incels followed journalist Ben Zand as he delved deep into the world of incels, who are self-described as being ‘involuntarily celibate’.
The communities, who interact a great deal online, have been accused of spreading dangerous ideologists while perpetuating rape culture and misogyny.
The programme saw Ben become acquainted with an incel known as ‘D’ – whose identity remained anonymous – with the pair heading to the pub on a night out together.
During their evening at the pub, D expressed his fear of being accused of rape or domestic abuse if he spoke to a woman in the real world, before their conversation caught the attention of a group of women sitting at the table next to them.
Ben turned to one of the women to ask if she’d be willing to chat to them on camera, which is when she joined them at their table to listen to the questions D had for her.
Before their pub visit, D had prepared a list of questions, which included asking whether height is important to women when they’re seeking a male partner, and whether there’s a ‘male virgin epidemic’.
When asked by Ben to explain a bit about his life, the incel shared that he’s a ‘NEET’, which stands for someone who’s not in education, employment or training, adding: ‘So they kind of do nothing with their life basically’.
Turning to the questions he had for the woman, he said: ‘I suppose I want to ask, what do you think is the necessary traits necessary, uh… what are the necessary applications of being in a relationship?’
‘Crikey,’ the woman said in shock to the line of questioning, before stressing that she believes there’s ‘someone out there for everyone’.
D struggled to get his words out as he took the piece of paper with his questions out of his pocket, while Ben tried to soothe his nerves.
The woman assured D that he shouldn’t worry about height when it comes to trying to attract a woman, as he asked: ‘Do you think there’s a preference, a shared preference, that people have?’
‘Everyone has their own type,’ the woman replied patiently, as the incel outlined how when he spends time online within his community, he comes across people who claim that ‘if you don’t have a good body, no one will care if you have a good heart’.
‘I don’t think it’s true at all. I think what you need to do is get some time away from the computer,’ the woman responded.
Ben then added: ‘I think maybe the takeaway is that there’s hope.’
UNTOLD – The Secret World of Incels is on All 4 from Monday November 7.