Kate Lawler revealed she is at ‘breaking point’ as she hit back at mum-shamers.
The Big Brother star welcomed first daughter Noa with fiancé Martin last month, and has recounted the newborn’s hospital trips on her Instagram story.
The new mum came under fire on Instagram as she documented her very first Mother’s Day by sharing snaps of her adorable dogs Baxter and Shirley on social media, with many calling her out for not posting pictures of baby Noa.
Having none of it, the 40-year-old called out the ‘hurtful and abusive comments’ she had been met with, slamming those who had trolled her over the upload.
‘I want to address a recent post which has resulted in some extremely hurtful and abusive comments,’ she began the lengthy post. ‘On Mother’s Day, I shared a photo of Baxter and Shirley. Nearly everyone reading this understands just how much I cherish my two doggies.
‘They are family members and before my daughter was born, Baxter and Shirley featured heavily on my Instagram feed / stories. So on Mother’s Day I shared a photo of them as I do every Mother’s Day and some of the comments are horrible.
‘I don’t even know where to begin. 17 out of the last 20 posts on my Instagram feed have been about my daughter, not one of them is negative about Noa or a complaint about her. I’ve done a few stories sharing the highs and lows because that’s the truth.
‘Stop thinking that if you don’t post a photo with your daughter or mum on social media for Mother’s Day, you can’t possibly love them.’
‘If you must know, being a mum to a newborn is not the best thing ever right now,’ she continued. ‘It’s broken me. I feel like I’ve been treading water since February 11th and the last two days I’ve felt like I’m at breaking point.
‘I’m not coping well mentally and I wish I could be stronger for my daughter. I’m not enjoying what I’m going through, yes I’m struggling and you’re right, I am sad behind the eyes because I’ve always taken on new challenges like a duck to water but this one in testing me and I feel like I’m failing.
‘I’m not afraid to say it because thanks to people like you, there’s far too much pressure on new parents to say how blissful the “newborn bubble” is when really it’s different for EVERY parent because EVERY baby is different.’
Kate explained that Noa had spent 14 days in hospital since her birth, and is still not sleeping properly, leading to some heartbreaking days for herself and her partner.
‘But how dare you say I put my dogs before my child,’ she said. ‘I love my child and for nearly five weeks, I’ve devoted myself to keeping her alive. I breastfeed day and night, I comfort, hold, kiss and cuddle her, bath and dress her, I sing and play with her.
‘I’m trying to get to know her and learn what she’s communicating to me. It’s not been on Insta because I’m focusing on HER, not doing a ton of Insta stories like before.
‘I actually want to share all these new experiences with you but I’m putting Noa first and doing my job – being a mother and making sure her needs are met.
‘There HAVE been moments of joy, but hand on heart, I’m just exhausted, frustrated and the newborn days are not what I thought they’d be.
‘If that upsets or angers you then it’s your problem. I’m in the darkest place I’ve ever been in, trying to stay positive but I’m not the earth mother you want me to be, so accept it and stop with the hurtful comments.’
Kate concluded the post: ‘Also I know how tough it can be for those (including many friends who’ve lost their mum / child) to see photos flooding their feed of kids with their mums on Mother’s Day. Also for those with fertility struggles, which is why I held back from posting a photo of me with Noa.
‘Please stop judging others and think before posting mean comments. Finally I’d you happen to feel the same, stay strong, you’re not alone. #BeKind [sic].’